What is ‘Perfect’?
Perfect. Quite a small word. Perfectly formed, you might say.
Doesn’t look especially scary. Pretty easy to say.
But what does it mean. What is ‘perfect’?
“It’s a perfect day”, “That’s a perfect dress”, “That’s a perfect hike”.
Say those out loud. How does it make you feel?
Now. How about this: “You are perfect”. Say that one out loud. How are you feeling now?
The thing with ‘perfect’ is it’s pretty impossible to live with. Not to mention, to attempt to live up to.
And that’s before you even begin to think about whose version of ‘perfect’ it is. Yours? Your partner’s? Friends? Colleagues?
‘Perfect’ is a straitjacket. Sometimes put on you by you. Sometimes, by others. Either way it’s confining, reducing your room to explore.
Your room to breathe. Your room simply to be. In short, it limits you. How?
‘Perfect’ means you are never allowed to fail. But you cannot grow without failing – because without failing, there is no learning.
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work”. Thomas A. Edison
‘Perfect’ is a dull as dishwater
Life is messy. colourful, scary, exciting, sad and plain old wonderful.
How would it feel to give yourself permission to let go of ‘perfect’? To screw it up like yesterday’s paper into a teeny weeny ball and whack it into touch?
A little scary?
Well. That’s OK. Changing habits, patterns, and beliefs isn’t a stroll in the park. As my Mum used to tell us when we were little, “It’s a lot easier to pick up bad habits then learn good ones”.
Welcome in ‘unperfect’ and it brings along its best friends. Curiosity. Creativity. Compassion
But you can choose to open the door and welcome in ‘unperfect’. Give it a go now.
Say these words to yourself: “I give myself permission to let go of perfect. I welcome in unperfect”.
(Remember to breathe. Funny how we can find ourselves holding our breath…)
I’d love to hear what you make of this. Share your thoughts in the comments below.