Change and Migraine
For some people change is overwhelming.
For others it’s wonderful.
For some people change is a pain in the tush.
For others it’s exciting.
And for most of us, it’s a mix of the above.
When someone asks me what to I do and I tell them about my bespoke migraine treatment typically, they’ll say, “Oh, that must be so rewarding to fix people”. Hmm
Do I find my work rewarding? Yes, absolutely. Do I ‘fix’ people? No.
Can I be totally honest with you? There is no magical therapist out there with the special powers to fix you. There are plenty of fantastic therapists who can help you but, no doubt about it the real work needs to come from you. Why is that?
Let me explain. As yet, we don’t truly know what causes migraine. We do know that somehow the brain is working differently. As someone who gets migraine that means your brain, which is why you have to do the work.
Changing the impact migraine is having on you comes from the inside out.
So, why is making changes so tough?
Even when you know that making change is the right thing for you to do, it can still be hard-going.
Perhaps it’s because you don’t feel you have the support you need?
Perhaps you don’t feel that you have the time or resources?
Perhaps you’re a little afraid of what might not happen?
Or perhaps, more scarily – what if things do change for the better?
What will you do if you’re free of the restrictions migraine puts on your life right now?
From my own hard learnt experience, I believe that there are three ways you can help take the fear out of the process of changing. See you what you think.
1. Be Crystal Clear On How You’d Love Your Life To Be
Picturing clearly how you want your life to be is really powerful. The difference it’ll make for you is tremendous. So, how can you do that?
If you love words, grab yourself a notebook and write a story of your ideal, regular everyday day. What would it look like from first thing in the morning to last thing at night? What would fire that enthusiasm of yours?
More of a visual bod? Then get busy with the scissors and glue. Fashion your very own inspiration board stuffed full of pictures and quotes. Or, go the tech way. Add an inspirational album to your smartphone or set up a Pinterest board to collate your own collection.
2. Ups And Downs Are OK
When you are making any kind of changes in your life, it’s normal to have ups and downs. That’s true too when you’re making changes to chronic pain. There’ll be times when everything feels much easier and others when you feel stuck. And that’s OK. Really, it is. It’s an absolutely normal part of any learning.
And, what’s change other than learning how to do something differently?
Think about a time when you’ve learnt something new. Speaking a new language, playing the piano, writing code, whatever. Remember the feeling you had when you made those first steps. Felt pretty great, right?
Next the moment that happens to everybody. The moment you realised how much you still had to learn. Probably felt less great. It’s a common stumbling block. But you already have the solution.
You’ll take out your ideal day story or your inspiration board. You’ll remember why you want to change. You’ll remind yourself what it will mean not to always have migraine on your mind.
3. Pick Your Best Support Team
OK, so you’re the one who has to want to change. But that doesn’t mean you have to do it alone. Trying to make changes without support can mean setting yourself up for a hard time. Having support, someone to share your goals with, to offer guidance and yes – to give you a friendly kick up the pants when needed, makes the task a lot easier.
Ask someone you trust and whose advice you value.
Reality Check: picking a family member here may not be such a good idea.
They may want the very best for you but that support sometimes comes with a whole heap of baggage. Share with them your dreams, that’s important. But maybe ask someone who’s a bit more neutral to be on your support team.
That’s it. My thoughts on how to make change more simply and with less angst. What do you think? What’s been your experience of making change?